tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post4126396299645171680..comments2023-07-05T11:01:35.281+01:00Comments on Against Her Better Judgment: In which a temper begins to frayBlondehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04135846185772109032noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-69651889429276035822010-05-04T09:14:27.212+01:002010-05-04T09:14:27.212+01:00"The Speckled Collective", one day you w..."The Speckled Collective", one day you will join them, resistance is futile.<br><br>But your story does beg the question, did you say those things because, at some unfathomably deep, subconscious level, you wanted a reaction? Perhaps? Hmmm?HCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-19507890187993081762010-05-04T11:02:35.400+01:002010-05-04T11:02:35.400+01:00Hmm. I hate to say it, but it's really time yo...Hmm. I hate to say it, but it's really time you two had The Conversation, isn't it? If not the Big One, at least one where you enquire gently if he expects you to sit at home doing needlework waiting just in case he calls?Gin Operatedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05012605165115199408noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-72195216358465137162010-05-04T11:27:56.484+01:002010-05-04T11:27:56.484+01:00Ah the male ego - in a class by itself. I am confu...Ah the male ego - in a class by itself. I am confused about one point; I don't remember you going out with someone long enough to call ceasing going out with them to be considered breaking up. Did I miss something?jmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-77074870030508820182010-05-04T11:30:48.372+01:002010-05-04T11:30:48.372+01:00HC: I don't think so - I'm not a gal who e...HC: I don't think so - I'm not a gal who embraces the confrontation. If I were doing it for the reaction, I'd have told him about each and every date as it's happened.<br><br>GO: Hmm. In grown-up fashion, you're probably right. But if he expects something of me, he needs to come out and say it (though I feel the answer isn't going to be what he wants to hear). I don't really want to instigate the conversation just to have to tell him that it's not going to happen. (I know, I know, it's the Ostrich Approach. It's how I roll.)Blondehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04949311774305277801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-30405373091209810782010-05-04T11:49:50.498+01:002010-05-04T11:49:50.498+01:00Both hedging bets? One more consciously than the o...Both hedging bets? One more consciously than the other, hence the temper fray - probably as much at himself.Barrynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-22460592383456389312010-05-04T12:20:31.074+01:002010-05-04T12:20:31.074+01:00If, as GO enquires and you confirm, you haven'...If, as GO enquires and you confirm, you haven't had The Conversation then what right does he have to get eggy over you seeing other people. He can't have it both ways. <br><br>Oooo, SL has annoyed me.<br><br>I'm with GO - the head in the sand isn't going to work with this one I'm afraid. It's going to have to be a make or break, where do I stand, conversation. <br><br>*sigh*nuttycowhttp://parlezvousmoo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-84898363503089955702010-05-04T16:05:15.579+01:002010-05-04T16:05:15.579+01:00Jman: I tend to measure dalliances in terms of emo...Jman: I tend to measure dalliances in terms of emotion invested, rather than length. Breaking things off with SN definitely felt more significant than simply 'ceasing going out'.<br><br>Barry: A while ago, I'd have agreed. Now, if that's what he's doing, then he's on his own.<br><br>NC: Quite. He has no right, and I don't have time for the behaviour. Boys! (Still doesn't mean I'm going to talk to him about it. I refer you to my earlier email.)Blondehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04949311774305277801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-4945412395792377892010-05-04T16:24:46.810+01:002010-05-04T16:24:46.810+01:00Serves him right. I think you handled the situatio...Serves him right. I think you handled the situation well.Emilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07130185365933628934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-7000272820934324352010-05-04T23:08:37.772+01:002010-05-04T23:08:37.772+01:00I've just had the same with a friend (roles re...I've just had the same with a friend (roles reversed).<br><br>Sometimes you just cannot win. That is sign in itself that you are destined not to be together that way.theperpetualspiralhttp://theperpetualspiral.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-71560954625136746492010-05-05T10:25:17.914+01:002010-05-05T10:25:17.914+01:00Ah, I see. Hmm, well.Not impossible to think where...Ah, I see. Hmm, well.<br><br>Not impossible to think where he got the (obviously erroneous and presumptuous) idea that you'd drop everything and run when he calls - judging by previous entries, you seem to have done just that on a few occasions.<br><br>Hopefully he'll take the hint now that it's not as easy as that...Ragehttp://thedyingofthelight.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-15001136746367053812010-05-08T15:40:15.749+01:002010-05-08T15:40:15.749+01:00Oh my god, your blog is brilliant, and you're ...Oh my god, your blog is brilliant, and you're a great writer... Why had I not found it before?!?Rachelhttp://wastemylifepretending.onsugar.com/noreply@blogger.com