tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post3332500017159701411..comments2023-07-05T11:01:35.281+01:00Comments on Against Her Better Judgment: In which I consider stepping out of the chemistry labBlondehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04135846185772109032noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-60266781794874424132010-03-26T09:35:34.284+00:002010-03-26T09:35:34.284+00:00Great idea Blonde. I was thinking about this the o...Great idea Blonde. I was thinking about this the other day. A younger friend here has moved from one bad boy to another and I realised that at some point, that has to stop. You have to look for more that just that immediate attraction and build on what's there. Ok, so there has to be *some* attraction but slow burning love is better than quick firing lust.nuttycowhttp://parlezvousmoo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-56602599353700355302010-03-26T10:25:20.908+00:002010-03-26T10:25:20.908+00:00This is an uncharacteristically serious post! Well...This is an uncharacteristically serious post! Well, relatively.<br><br>It's also a very mature point of view, and I think you're absolutely bang on.<br><br>Interestingly, though, I think "dates" are about the worst time to put this into practice. As per your previous post, when you go on a date with someone you don't know, a lack of charisma can make the evening very painful - we've all been there, desperately fishing around for some sort of conversation and longing for easygoing banter.<br><br>Much easier to appreciate non-superficial qualities if you know someone at least a bit before you start going on proper dates.Rage Against The Dying of the Lighthttp://thedyingofthelight.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-54561880102218953312010-03-26T10:35:18.009+00:002010-03-26T10:35:18.009+00:00I think you've made some good points here m...I think you've made some good points here m'dear.<br><br>Charisma is extremely important, there is nothing worse than someone being bland and a bit backwards in coming forwards. <br><br>The only problem is, charisma is usually born from confidence and these days there is a fine line betweeen confidence and arrogance. Or perhaps thats just how I interpret it?<br><br>Anyhow, I'd stick to your guns. I've tried expanding my horizons with girls that don't immediately make an impact, and whilst in the short term you might feel fulfilled... if they ain't tickin' your boxes - what's the point? Move on.@jwarnettenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-69177108448042652152010-03-26T11:38:28.986+00:002010-03-26T11:38:28.986+00:00Much easier being a bloke. Can she cook ? Has she ...Much easier being a bloke. Can she cook ? Has she got boobs ?<br><br>The vast majority of blokes told that a girl had "charisma" would think it's a STD........Hamishnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-44502432211375491642010-03-26T14:36:10.667+00:002010-03-26T14:36:10.667+00:00Nooooooooo!!!You cannot be serious, Blonde!A Respo...Nooooooooo!!!<br><br>You cannot be serious, Blonde!<br><br>A Responsible and Mature Attitude, is not what we want read. Where's the angst, the wailing and gnashing of teeth, the tearing the clothes of each other posts that we're used to .<br>You'll just be posting piccies of Colin if this attitude prevails. But on the other hand if helps you find the right guy, you go girl, I'm sure you'll let us know how it proceeds.Jack The Ladhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15850918438127638907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-18637389615627312672010-03-26T14:59:37.386+00:002010-03-26T14:59:37.386+00:00Sounds very sensible. I think compatibility can ma...Sounds very sensible. <br><br>I think compatibility can make up for a lack of charisma. If two people are compatible, the conversation can be just as stimulating.Emilyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02700753775821511580noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-67204148446617368082010-03-26T15:03:40.662+00:002010-03-26T15:03:40.662+00:00NC: It's a theory. Let's see if it works.....NC: It's a theory. Let's see if it works...<br><br>RATDOTL: Ah, but what do you do if the dates are the getting-to-know-you bit??<br><br>@jwarnette: There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, although so many men these days could do with having more confidence, I think. But you're right. Next!<br><br>Hamish: Ah, if only it were so.<br><br>JtL: When there's someone whose clothes I want to rip off, trust me, I'll let you lot know. In the meantime, if you want pics of Colin...Blondehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04949311774305277801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-23203714207555354282010-03-26T21:59:29.160+00:002010-03-26T21:59:29.160+00:00A more succinct post: "Am going to stop judgi...A more succinct post: "Am going to stop judging books by their covers".<br><br>I squint my eyes at the charismatic, articulate and confident, and think "what is <i>their</i> game?"Huwhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17812961156865975046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-91841323250298090002010-03-26T22:18:31.081+00:002010-03-26T22:18:31.081+00:00Oh Blonde, I don't think I've ever comment...Oh Blonde, I don't think I've ever commented because when I read you, I'm at work, but I've now found you on my home computer. And I just wanted to say how brilliantly you write (as I'm sure you know) - but are you real? Your life sounds like a novel. (Could be the brilliant writing, of course.)<br><br>Alas, I'm not a charismatic suitable partner for you, but a nearly 60-year-old mum. Anyway, hope you find P. Charming soon.Isabellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12641269043817163165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-12939072863656306012010-03-29T17:19:01.419+01:002010-03-29T17:19:01.419+01:00Huw: Yes. That's a far sharper way of saying i...Huw: Yes. That's a far sharper way of saying it.<br><br>Isabelle: Hello, and thanks for the comment! Re: the writing - you're v kind. I'm afraid I am - and the blogged occurances are all - entirely real. I do sometimes wish I were making it up...Blondehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04949311774305277801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-7720504641817715042010-03-31T01:16:20.824+01:002010-03-31T01:16:20.824+01:00Is there not a possibility that men can be charism...Is there not a possibility that men can be charismatic intermittently, or in some circumstances and not others? Might other people perceive as charisma what you perceive as mediocrity, or vice versa?CoatManhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02508813582631708091noreply@blogger.com