tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post1163059524597814547..comments2023-07-05T11:01:35.281+01:00Comments on Against Her Better Judgment: In which I consider whether it's acceptable to change things about the man one's datingBlondehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04135846185772109032noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-14966464934681465762010-10-24T14:18:49.451+01:002010-10-24T14:18:49.451+01:00The current Mrs TPS has helped me update my wardro...The current Mrs TPS has helped me update my wardrobe and general appearance. At first I resisted greatly, but the changes worked not only for how I looked but my confidence too.<br /><br />Once I encouraged one of the dogs to eat a pair of her shoes that I didn't like, it seems the girls stuck together on that one though as the shoes remained uneaten.<br /><br />I did read somewhere on the internet (so it clearly must be true), that women meet a man and than spend time making them into the man that they really want.<br /><br />Bren is right though, sometimes compromise is much needed. Mrs TPS loves the Hollyoaks omnibus on a Sunday morning whilst I find that an ideal time to make us brunch and then sit and read the papers with a pot of coffee.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-20597582315958255532010-10-21T14:41:11.064+01:002010-10-21T14:41:11.064+01:00Men hate it when they think a woman is trying to c...Men hate it when they think a woman is trying to change them, even when it's for the better. I've had it happen to me, and it summons an almost irrational rage. We've got fragile egos, and when you try and rearrange us, we dig our heels in and resist. I guess because it's a rejection of who we are. And it's something I'd never do to a girl, for fear of upsetting her or appearing chauvanistic.<br /><br />Suggestions and persuasions are sometimes welcome, but I think a lot of it is timing. I remember on a second date, a girl told me I should grow a beard. I said I didn't want to. She insisted I should. I didn't see her again.<br /><br /><i>Re: poor clothing choices, the only men who dress well are either gay or dressed by their significant other.</i><br /><br />Bollocks, Zstep.Delhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10804947827499336453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-89325212934520908792010-10-21T12:44:52.698+01:002010-10-21T12:44:52.698+01:00Zstep: Then you see my dilemma. We shall, I suppos...Zstep: Then you see my dilemma. We shall, I suppose, see. (I'm ignoring that last bit, by the way.)<br /><br />Bren: Well, quite - I'm just concerned that the bits I dislike might be the bits he's not willing to part with. Erk. (Not an Earl Grey man? Really?)<br /><br />Jman: It's happened. The boyfriend in question is no longer a boyfriend, yet the eyeliner remains. That probably explains the state of my love-life, really.<br /><br />Jess: Oh, don't! I dread to think what undiscovered horrors lurk. Nicely done, Mr Jess, though. Dare I ask what was so terrible about the pants?Blondehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04135846185772109032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-87079298069334903392010-10-21T01:24:55.238+01:002010-10-21T01:24:55.238+01:00There are no excuses for a chain - it's one st...There are no excuses for a chain - it's one step away from a medallion or a football tattoo. <br /><br />There's no harm in gently letting a person know you don't like an accessory (tactfully, in case it has some kind of personal significance). <br /><br />There was a point early in my relationship when my partner teased me out of my clothes, kissed me passionately and whispered lovingly in my ear "If you're going to be my girlfriend we'll really have to do something about those pants." Somehow I didn't take offence.Jessnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-89006177945234006252010-10-21T00:43:49.061+01:002010-10-21T00:43:49.061+01:00Ah but what if the man you loved told you how oh s...Ah but what if the man you loved told you how oh so sexy and gorgeous he found you when you didn't wear eyeliner? How cross would you stay while you were removing it?jmannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-36689165792594849192010-10-20T22:51:42.666+01:002010-10-20T22:51:42.666+01:00I've got to step in here...
I’m all for grown-...I've got to step in here...<br /><i>I’m all for grown-up discussions about compromise in relationships, but if a man tried to part me from my eyeliner, my Sunday morning sessions with large mugs of Earl Grey and the Archers omnibus, or my ever-increasing collection of lovely but impractical coats (ie, they’re beautiful but I can’t wear them in the rain), I know I’d be really cross.</i><br /><br />I don't have eyeliner, Sunday mornings sessions with Earl Grey or the Archers. Or impractical coats. But there are just one or two little things that are sacrosanct around here, and I would fight every quarter to keep them. Bugger compromise. Sometimes. :)Brennighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10553332352189636358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5734266766203380275.post-29079749757307286672010-10-20T14:50:25.586+01:002010-10-20T14:50:25.586+01:00I'm of two minds on this post. Re: poor cloth...I'm of two minds on this post. Re: poor clothing choices, the only men who dress well are either gay or dressed by their significant other. This is a documented fact as written by Z. Step., Esq. and is acknowledged the world over. Should you choose to pursue a more significant relationship with this dude, you can easily modify his dressing habits with simple threats like withholding sex or strangling him with his pink and blue striped polo.<br /><br />The chain is a more difficult issue to see past unfortunately. The only men who can pull this off are military types wearing their dog tags because, you know, they have to. Gold chains in particular are problematic in my view. Here in the States gold chains have become synonymous with the "Guido Phenomenon" perpetuated by the dreadful Jersey Shore personas. Even worse, I see gold chains as a common feature of prematurely balding men with excessive chest hair trying to encourage teenage boys into peep show establishments. Not good.<br /><br />If he tries to explain the chain away as some sort of family legacy, run. That's just proving he has bad genes and nothing good can come from it.<br /><br />Anyway, is this the Oompa Loompa?Zstepnoreply@blogger.com